Can you quit porn while you single?

Do you have any tips for staying PMO-free if you’re single or don’t have any sexual outlets?

This is a pretty common question, and the important thing is to get really clear on what the actual issue is in this situation. When someone feels that their lack of sexual outlet is hindering their ability to complete the NoFap challenge, there are two things that they need to confront:

1) The physical discomfort of not acting on sexual urges while staying PMO-free
2) Their beliefs about orgasm and relationships

The first issue is one we talk about a lot. You need to get comfortable with discomfort. It’s likely that your body is going to go through withdrawal symptoms if it is very used to PMO. This is going to suck, but as long as you can embrace that suck, there are some huge benefits on the other side.

The second issue is about checking your mentality. Just because you aren’t having sex, doesn’t mean you get to play the victim card and justify relapses. If you believe that you need orgasm in order to be happy, healthy, and okay, then those beliefs are going to be a huge obstacle in your reboot. You will need to work through your own reasoning and get clear within yourself that this is something you truly want and are willing to work for.

Sometimes the issue is not so much the beliefs around orgasm itself, but more about the belief that you need the validation of a sexual partner in order to feel good about yourself. If this is the issue then you will likely feel lonely and inadequate – an emotional state that lends itself nicely to the escape of PMO. If you feel this is the case then the answer is learning how to have unconditional acceptance of yourself, whether you are in a relationship or not. Easier said than done, but so is the path of NoFap!